Book Title: Our Marriage Contract
Paperback: 68 pages
Paperback: 68 pages
Genre: Self Help, Inspirational
Taylor M. Fletcher is the Managing Partner at The Law Offices of Kawalski, Fletcher & Kirkpatrick, P.C. Mr. Fletcher has more than ten years’ experience as a corporate law attorney, an attorney consultant, and an expert legal volunteer for various public and private non-profit organizations throughout the Tri-State area.
NO JUDGES, NO LAWYERS, JUST GREAT COMMUNICATIONS...... Although titled Our Marriage Contract and written by a lawyer; I'm happy to say the book has absolutely nothing to do with the court or U.S. legal system. Instead the book actually explains and shows people how their relationship Expectations...Leads to Disappointment....Disappointments Leads to Resentment and Resentment Leads to Failure.
FROM A MALES PERSPECTIVE......In the book, I'm not writing from an expert or lawyer standpoint. Nope! I wrote the book from an average guy standpoint, who after years of darting and trying to figure why during most of my relationships I was either a hero at times or a big fat zero; even when I tried to do the right thing.
I FINALLY CRACKED THE CODE....So I think. After finally coming to grips that as crude as it may sound; relationships are just like any other of life's fragile unions and in order to be successful there needs to be rules both people must follow to make it work. Now, here's the fun part, part of putting my hypothesis or what I called "cracking the code" to the test, not only did I test and try it out on my then fiancée' and now wife but I tested it on many of my friends who are in relationships or at the early stages of one. To my surprise it worked! Seriously! I was kind of shocked because I'm no Dr. Phil or other relationship expert, I was just a guy who figured it had to be an easier way to get what I wanted out of a relationship, and now I had the answer!
Two years later, Our Marriage Contract "the book" was born and published. I am really happy with the final product because I stayed true to the books mission which was to share my personal experiences and explain in under 65 pages how people can have a great relationship, regardless if they've been in a relationship for 6 months or 6 years, all with just a simple piece of paper. In the book I think women will appreciate The Men's Quick Start Guide (page 17) and men in-turn will surely appreciate The Hostile Love Terms (page 32). In the end both people will know how to simply "ask" for what they not only need but want" in their current or next relationship and have fun doing it! Why? Because, I explain step by step how the process of "getting what you want" requires going to out to dinner along with a few other things designed to bring the couple closer in their relationship. Our Marriage Contract is currently listed on Barnes and Noble, Amazon and Kindle.
Tell us about yourself?
First and foremost, I’m a happily married! And I’m not just saying that to be saying that. I’m a guy who feels incredibly blessed for all the little and wonderful things God has offered me in my lifetime. By trade I’m a Corporate Attorney who again has been blessed with the ability to help my clients prosper and stay out of trouble. I’m a dog parent to a Boxer Beagle mix, named Gemma and married to my best friend. I enjoy a good movie on the couch with my BFF (my wife) or jumping on the motorcycle and grabbing a bite to eat with my wife. My favorite thing besides flea marketing hopping is to get a pedicure alongside my wife, those chairs are Great! Other than that, if you strip away the titles, the degrees, the material possession, I’m just your average everyday guy except I found happiness through dealing with my expectations upfront.
Tell us about your book?
The book addresses what I call the Miss”Education” of Romance. How many classes or seminars have you attended that teaches people how to have a better relationship or romance? So although titled Our Marriage Contract and written by a lawyer; I'm happy to say the book has absolutely nothing to do with the court or U.S. legal system. Instead the book actually explains and shows people how their relationship Expectations...Leads to Disappointment....Disappointments Leads to Resentment and Resentment Leads to Failure. I wrote the book from an average guy standpoint, who after years of dating and trying to figure why during most of my relationships I was either a hero at times or a big fat zero; even when I tried to do the right thing couldn’t get it right….until I decided to treat a relationship for just what it truly is and use what everybody uses and understands and that’s simple rules…And it worked!
How did you come up with ideas for this book?
I was months away from getting married and super worried about what I read on-line about marriages. No, honestly I was down-right petrified, plus I was worried about failing. Now, I know that may sound weird but just like every relationship I had, it was all great in the beginning and middle but for whatever reasons it ended whether by my actions or the other person. But getting married, that was not as simple as 3-4 weeks of heart-ach after a break up. Divorce was like a badge of shame that would stay with me forever. So basically I came up with the concept after fearing the worst but wanting the best.
What do you hope readers will learn/discover from reading your book?
If the rich and wealthy can use marital or relationship aids to get what they want out of their relationship with success. Why can’t you and I? We’re worth it too, right? Everyday normal people like you and I deserve happy and healthy relationships and great romance. The number # 1 reasons people don’t get the job. Is they don’t ask! The # 1 reasons people don’t get what they want from a relationship, is…you guessed it “They don’t ask”! The book will show you how and WHY you should ask for the things you want in your relationship and not just to expect them. The book teaches us “Expecting leads to Disappointment, Disappointment leads to Resentment and Resentment leads to Failure.
What inspired you to write this book?
I think what really inspired me to write the book was first and foremost having a marriage contract in my own relationship work and is still working to this very day. So, thinking” I Finally Cracked the Code”, on what I refer to as the Miss”Education” of Romance and I coming to grips that as crude as it may sound; relationships are just like any other of life's fragile unions and in order to be successful there needs to be rules both people must follow to make it work. I put my hypothesis or what I called "cracking the code" to the test, not only did I test and try it out on my then fiancée' and now wife but I tested it on many of my friends who are in relationships or at the early stages of one. To my surprise it worked! Years later, Our Marriage Contract "the book" was born.
What’s next for you?
Hopefully, to do a few seminars covering the book and its topic, I hope to get the message out to as many women as possible. I believe it all starts with the women and teaching and showing them to stop expecting and start asking, particularly minority women. There’s an old saying that “there‘re not a lot of good black men out there”. I beg to differ and in fact I know there are, women just have to curve their expectations of what a good is and ask for what they want and that’s half the battle”. Think about it! Women say a good man is supposed to have good qualities, so they look and expect to find those things are qualities in a “Quote on Quote “good man” so let’s just say for one second. Woman meet a man for face value, (physical attractions, etc.) if she ask for the things she expects and wants in a relationship AND she gets 85% of those things, now suddenly she has a good man! Well at least by her standards …. The “MissEducation of Romance” being explained and fixed is well on its way.