Book Title: Our Marriage Contract
Paperback: 68 pages
Paperback: 68 pages
ISBN-10: 1478754338
ISBN-13: 978-1478754336
ISBN-13: 978-1478754336
Genre: Self Help, Inspirational
Taylor M. Fletcher is the Managing Partner at The Law Offices of Kawalski, Fletcher & Kirkpatrick, P.C. Mr. Fletcher has more than ten years’ experience as a corporate law attorney, an attorney consultant, and an expert legal volunteer for various public and private non-profit organizations throughout the Tri-State area.
NO JUDGES, NO LAWYERS, JUST GREAT COMMUNICATIONS...... Although titled Our Marriage Contract and written by a lawyer; I'm happy to say the book has absolutely nothing to do with the court or U.S. legal system. Instead the book actually explains and shows people how their relationship Expectations...Leads to Disappointment....Disappointments Leads to Resentment and Resentment Leads to Failure.
FROM A MALES PERSPECTIVE......In the book, I'm not writing from an expert or lawyer standpoint. Nope! I wrote the book from an average guy standpoint, who after years of darting and trying to figure why during most of my relationships I was either a hero at times or a big fat zero; even when I tried to do the right thing.
I FINALLY CRACKED THE CODE....So I think. After finally coming to grips that as crude as it may sound; relationships are just like any other of life's fragile unions and in order to be successful there needs to be rules both people must follow to make it work. Now, here's the fun part, part of putting my hypothesis or what I called "cracking the code" to the test, not only did I test and try it out on my then fiancée' and now wife but I tested it on many of my friends who are in relationships or at the early stages of one. To my surprise it worked! Seriously! I was kind of shocked because I'm no Dr. Phil or other relationship expert, I was just a guy who figured it had to be an easier way to get what I wanted out of a relationship, and now I had the answer!
Two years later, Our Marriage Contract "the book" was born and published. I am really happy with the final product because I stayed true to the books mission which was to share my personal experiences and explain in under 65 pages how people can have a great relationship, regardless if they've been in a relationship for 6 months or 6 years, all with just a simple piece of paper. In the book I think women will appreciate The Men's Quick Start Guide (page 17) and men in-turn will surely appreciate The Hostile Love Terms (page 32). In the end both people will know how to simply "ask" for what they not only need but want" in their current or next relationship and have fun doing it! Why? Because, I explain step by step how the process of "getting what you want" requires going to out to dinner along with a few other things designed to bring the couple closer in their relationship. Our Marriage Contract is currently listed on Barnes and Noble, Amazon and Kindle.
Valentine’s Day is coming, so I ask my wife, "Honey what do you want for Valentine's Day"? She candidly replies "nothing ", I then say "are you sure"?, She again says "I'm fine"!. Five days later Valentine Day rolls along and because I didn't get her anything "but " all the ladies in her office are receiving flowers, cards, bears, balloons and flowers...all except my wife. And even when she comes home, there's still no flowers, cards candy etc. Now my wife is extremely disappointed at me but she can't say or show it because remember I did asked her. Instead she's disappointed, now what happens if this continues for years? You guessed it, Expectations leads to Disappointment...Disappointment leads to Resentment...Resentment leads to Failure.... Don't think this can happen, well it does and in the book I explain how to avoid that situation so both people ultimately "get what they want".
Tell
us about yourself?
First and foremost, I’m a happily married! And I’m not
just saying that to be saying that. I’m a guy who feels incredibly blessed for
all the little and wonderful things God has offered me in my lifetime. By trade I’m a Corporate Attorney who again
has been blessed with the ability to help my clients prosper and stay out of
trouble. I’m a dog parent to a Boxer Beagle mix, named Gemma and married to my
best friend. I enjoy a good movie on the couch with my BFF (my wife) or jumping
on the motorcycle and grabbing a bite to eat with my wife. My favorite thing
besides flea marketing hopping is to get a pedicure alongside my wife, those
chairs are Great! Other than that, if you strip away the titles, the degrees,
the material possession, I’m just your average everyday guy except I found
happiness through dealing with my expectations upfront.
Tell
us about your book?
The book addresses what I call the
Miss”Education” of Romance. How many classes or seminars have you attended that
teaches people how to have a better relationship or romance? So although titled
Our Marriage Contract and written by a lawyer; I'm happy to say the book has
absolutely nothing to do with the court or U.S. legal system. Instead the book
actually explains and shows people how their relationship Expectations...Leads
to Disappointment....Disappointments Leads to Resentment and Resentment Leads
to Failure. I wrote the book from an average guy standpoint, who after years of
dating and trying to figure why during most of my relationships I was either a
hero at times or a big fat zero; even when I tried to do the right thing couldn’t
get it right….until I decided to treat a relationship for just what it truly is
and use what everybody uses and understands and that’s simple rules…And it
worked!
How
did you come up with ideas for this book?
I was months away from getting married and super
worried about what I read on-line about marriages. No, honestly I was
down-right petrified, plus I was worried about failing. Now, I know that may
sound weird but just like every relationship I had, it was all great in the
beginning and middle but for whatever reasons it ended whether by my actions or
the other person. But getting married, that was not as simple as 3-4 weeks of
heart-ach after a break up. Divorce was like a badge of shame that would stay
with me forever. So basically I came up with the concept after fearing the
worst but wanting the best.
What
do you hope readers will learn/discover from reading your book?
If the rich and wealthy can use marital or relationship
aids to get what they want out of their relationship with success. Why can’t
you and I? We’re worth it too, right? Everyday normal people like you and I
deserve happy and healthy relationships and great romance. The number # 1
reasons people don’t get the job. Is they don’t ask! The # 1 reasons people
don’t get what they want from a relationship, is…you guessed it “They don’t
ask”! The book will show you how and WHY you should ask for the things you want
in your relationship and not just to expect them. The book teaches us
“Expecting leads to Disappointment, Disappointment leads to Resentment and
Resentment leads to Failure.
What
inspired you to write this book?
I think
what really inspired me to write the book was first and foremost having a
marriage contract in my own relationship work and is still working to this very
day. So, thinking” I Finally Cracked the Code”, on what I refer to as the
Miss”Education” of Romance and I coming to grips that as
crude as it may sound; relationships are just like any other of life's fragile
unions and in order to be successful there needs to be rules both people must
follow to make it work. I put my hypothesis or what I called "cracking the
code" to the test, not only did I test and try it out on my then fiancée'
and now wife but I tested it on many of my friends who are in relationships or
at the early stages of one. To my surprise it worked! Years later, Our Marriage
Contract "the book" was born.
What’s
next for you?
Hopefully, to do a few seminars covering the book and its
topic, I hope to get the message out to as many women as possible. I believe it
all starts with the women and teaching and showing them to stop expecting and
start asking, particularly minority women. There’s an old saying that “there‘re
not a lot of good black men out there”. I beg to differ and in fact I know
there are, women just have to curve their expectations of what a good is and
ask for what they want and that’s half the battle”. Think about it! Women say a
good man is supposed to have good qualities, so they look and expect to find
those things are qualities in a “Quote on Quote “good man” so let’s just say
for one second. Woman meet a man for face value, (physical attractions, etc.)
if she ask for the things she expects and wants in a relationship AND she gets
85% of those things, now suddenly she has a good man! Well at least by her
standards …. The “MissEducation of Romance” being explained and fixed is well
on its way.
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